Know your personality

Most people mistakes physical attributes of an individual as his/her personality. They talk about a marvelous personality when they may just he referring to an individual’s stature fair complexion or chiseled features.
Well, if you thought that personality has anything to do with height, good looks, complexion or the physique of a person. It is time you re-think what you think you know. Any physical shortcomings can hardly influence of his personality traits such as superior character and behavior, and not by other mundane and frivolous considerations.

As per modern management concept, "personality is the BRAND IMAGE of an individual.”

It is simple made up of three broad aspects namely:

1.    Character

2.    Behavioral traits

3.    Attitude

Personality development is the improvement of behavioral traits such as communication skills, interpersonal relationships, attitude towards life and restoring our ethics. Character is the prerequisite to achieving a better individual personality. There are several behavioral scientists who argue that improving behavioral traits in a short-cut course of fifteen days to develop personality can effectively influence others and help win the race. But we must never forget that excellent behavioral traits such as communication skills, interpersonal relationships, higher order of motivational levels and excellent leadership qualities also fail miserably at the time of crisis if not based on solid character foundation.

Behavior is just the showcase of the larger inventory inside a person, i.e. character. If personality is developed on the solid based of values and ethics, it will last forever. Fake smiles and mannerisms are short-lived and do not help in improving one’s personality.

Good behavior and co-operation makes a man popular. As a result the possibilities of his progress and success increasingly multiply. The feeling of help and gratitude towards others not only adds to human qualities in a person but also increases his characteristic qualities.

Different people have different opinions about what makes a man’s personality complete. There are several behavioral scientist who have the view point that character does not form a part of personality, but Steven Covey, one of the all—time great authors and motivators says that the best of behavioral traits fail if they are not based on the solid foundation of character.

The person who wants to improve his personality has to have desire and determination ; he has to identify the direction for his goals to achieve it. Once all the above three steps are taken he has to dedicate himself to the task of achieving his goal. We need to develop personality traits that are very unique. Blindly following someone else who is successful will never take you in the direction right for you.

Enrich your personality with judging people correctly

To reach the highest pinnacle of success we must have the ability to judge people correctly. Sometime due to lack of understanding people correctly we are unable to give them their due treatment, which is not correct. We should try to understand people who come in our contact and should talk and behave with them accordingly. Respecting the wicked and ignoring the intelligent is not only harmful for our own self but it is also against human culture. If we want to become successful in life we must judge people. It has been emphasized in holy books that we must behave in a desired manner. We have the treasure of trust and respect, but we should not waste it on anyone who is not worthy of.

 Psychologists believe that many times we face failures in life because we are unable to judge people correctly. Generally we see that many opportunities slip from our hands simply because we are able to judge those people correctly who associated with us. The cause of many disputes is this that we fall to deal with people in proper way. A poet has tried to depict trust and intensity in relationships in this way-- Nobody will even shake hands with you If you embrace people without consideration It is a strange type of city maintain distance when you meet people.”

You should not open the reservoir of your trust on your friend or anyone else. As far as possible we should keep the important secrets of life to our own self. You never know at what point of time in life a friend may become a foe or may join hands with people who are plotting against you.

It is useless to believe and hope that everything that happens will be good. For this we have to exert and do necessary efforts. Nobody has the right to be happy unless and until he does his duties properly. God transforms a seed into tree but to sow it and water it is our responsibility. We should have a positive farsightedness in our decisions otherwise we will have to face failures on many fronts. Do not leave anything on fate; rather ensure proper completion of task by making preparations and organizing things properly. 

Nothing is going to work out if you blame fate, others or circumstances. Take decision after thoroughly giving attention to your personal matters. Consider all aspects of the given situation and weigh its pros and cons to enrich your personality.

In your personal matters only you can take right and reliable decision and everyone is capable of doing it, after all why will others be interested in your welfare?.

If we want to be truthful towards our own self and become better, then we will have to become trustworthy and we will also have to find such people for ourselves. It is desirable not to change your words, live up to your promises, and try to complete your work in given span of time. Believe in justice for all. Avoid favoritism. The most important sigh of a reliable man is his stability. We must take special care to develop our character and our capabilities. Your character will become more powerful if you have faith in yourself and you depend on your natural capabilities. In this way unworthy/undeserving people will become all the more inferior and unimportant for you. All the conspiracies will turn into ashes before your honest and impressive personality.

Keep in mind

• Through in spite of suffering from pangs of hunger a lion never feeds on other animal’s kill in the same way a self respecting person does not accept favors from other people even in most difficult time.
• It is very difficult to understand a cunning, foolish or misguided person.
• Anyone who is fearless and forgives others is the right person.
• A flower does not bloom for its own self, but for others, Let your flower like heart also bloom for others.
• Sleep wiser’ is a saying which means that we must learn something new every day. We should not be in the same condition when we go to bed as we were when we woke up.
• We all know that time in life is limited. Extra time can not be purchased. So we should neither waste our time nor anyone else.

Remember

If we allow doubt of the inner power to linger in our mind it clouds our spiritual vision and destroys our peace. When we doubt the reality of inner being, we lay the foundation for all misery and unhappiness. As long as we dwell in the outer, we cannot escape from limitations and imperfections. But the outer is a very small part of man. We all have the power of God within us. To disbelieve this is to cheat ourselves of or true heritage, it is better to believe in our higher nature. When we have faith in that we break the power of the lower nature.

Protect Your Personality from Worry and Sorrows

Man is considered superior and intelligent as compared to rest of the creatures. This is mainly because man is sentimental, and he has the capacity to express himself. Life is like a blooming flower. Sorrowful and gloomy people have not right to participate in celebration loving society. As far as possible our endeavor should be to create an atmosphere of love, happiness and laughter. We have no right to spoil the festive atmosphere by spreading tension and grief. Gloominess is such a fault/vice with not only isolated us develop and achieve the desired goals.

Life is the supreme gift of nature to man. We can know the real meaning of life of nature to man. We know the real meaning of life by making it useful for others. Life is full of both –sorrows and happiness—like shade and sunshine.
When one comes the other goes, but we should try and develop such an attitude that we may be able to lead a happy and balanced life under all circumstances. Keep one thing in mind that these worries and sorrows do not influence much your personality. The modern trends have changed life under all circumstances. The modern trends have changed life to a great extent. Today everybody seems to be stressed due to some or the other reason. But this does not mean that sorrows should overpower our personality and we should exhibit our sorrows everywhere. These work as shackles in the feet of any successful man.

For a well behaved person it is important to have good nature beside a pleasing personality. A good natured and jolly man, who is always smiling, attracts people towards him. The man who knows the interest of others and knows what type of conversation would please them and also knows to talk about appropriate things at appropriate time, certainly impresses everyone. Many a time in life we come across failures. A positives and hopeful attitude towards life helps us to overcome these failures and sorrows.

There is saying in English that “Thornless roses have not yet been invented”. So people who wish to become beautiful and popular like a rose must learn the art of smiling and developing in life which is full of thorns as well. If we become dejected by our failures we should understand that we have learnt nothing from flower.

Flowers distribute their fragrance to everyone who enters the garden. They never express their grief. That is why whenever we come across a person with a smiling face we compare it with a blooming flower.
Sometimes our day may start with a bad news or bad information which may cause sorrow for us. This is also possible that the rest of the day may pass in despair. But we can not keep pitying our self for that. It would be unfair to do so . To get rid of the situation you can not wait for any other support. We have to make an effort to support our own self from within. Whatever is happening within us and whatever is resulting with us, it is required that we concentrate on it and this can be considered a good beginning. Once when we become one with our inner experiences, we will be able to face all incidents, no matter if these incidents are unpleasant.

When we deeply practice this we realize that now we can honestly accept the facts of life as they come. Besides this we are also able to observe the path which will indirectly lead to the solution of all problems and incidents.

When we are not in coordination with our soul, we invite lot many failures and lot many troubles. Purification of our own ability helps us to become more powerful. On the other hand if people feel that they have weak soul power they prove to be really weak –even if they don’t agree to it.

The second emotion of gloominess is worry. Worry is equivalent to funeral pyre. Worry brings many losses along with it, which adversely affect our heart, glands, nervous systems and complete health, Worries result in physical ailments. The strength and capability of a man decreases due to which his life becomes unhappy and troublesome. Worries decrease the life span of and individual. Worry is a process concerned with mental emotions. We can control worries by improving our thought process.

A scholar said that worry is the product of and idle mind. One, who does not like to work, likes to worry. If a man or woman is worried once people will come forward to help them but when they make it a practice then people start avoiding them.
There is an incident about Danial Bony, who was considered and eminent inventionist. When west America was being developed he faced many dangers in his life in spite of it he was blessed with 85 years of long life. When he was nearing the end of his life one of his friends went to meet him. He asked- “How did you manage to keep yourself safe from so many dangers?” Denial replied – “It was the will of God that I should develop and beautify this wild area.”

Denial’s life was full of troubles but his heart was full of enthusiasm. He believed that through his job was tough but it was useful, and that some Divine power is always saving him. It all of us can develop similar view point then we can get rid of unnecessary fears and worries.
Considering worry as something very harmful all psychologists advise us to keep ourselves free from it.

Worry is bigger than fire of death, worry is a bad thing, because fire burns a dead body whereas worry burns one alive.
Life of a person is just like a bubble of water in the river of life and when pain is beyond endurance it becomes medicine.

What is this pain? The desire, the eagerness to unite with God. In mortal world it is compared to unite with beloved. Here beloved is God and pain caused by His separation is suffering. And meditation acts as medicine to this state of pain and unconsciousness.